Updates!

Yes I'll admit -- I've been a little neglectful lately, so sorry. Truth is, I've been so busy that I can barely keep up and I suspect that this will continue for at least the next year as the amount of projects that I have are... well... I don't even want to think about it. All I can say is thank goodness I love my line of work because if I hated it, I'd be having a nervous breakdown right about now. Fortunately, I love all of the projects that I'm involved in and feel very passionately about each one so it's the passion that is my fuel and motivates me to stay committed. I remember times in my life when I did not like what I was doing for work and how every moment felt like an hour. Ever have a job like that?

Me in the mirror :)

me in the mirror at bueckeburg castle.
How have you been? These days, I've been going to a lot of markets because they have so many winter markets outdoors and indoors that there is always something going on. They've set up a rather large market here on the main street where I do most of my errands so whenever I'm down there I'm caught up in a whirlwind of sights, sounds and smells... Roasted nuts, hot wine, gingerbread... and I love the puppet theater for the kids, the man who does them is so talented and to hear the laughter of the children as I approach is such medicine! In addition to these daily markets dotted around town, the twice weekly farmers' markets in my neighborhood are still hopping so I enjoy buying locally grown foods still -- even in the winter. Lately the Dutch have been bringing over lots of tulips -- I've been noticing them more and more in the flower shops and since they grow them in their massive greenhouses just over the border, you can enjoy what is the symbol of Springtime in the month of December. Amaryllis are all the rage, in addition to pine, neither of which you'll find in my home as I don't like red or pine green. I'm a rebel. So I opt for tulips and roses. :) And so with the markets, and the trips outside of Hannover to see the family, or visit a random castle, and my visits with my friend (we do a ladies lunch once weekly), and my visits with family and other friends (tomorrow I'm going by train up north to do some shopping), and this, and that... there is never a dull moment. I cannot believe I've been living here for 18 weeks already - over 4 months! I'm not homesick at all, I'm too busy to really think about missing anything yet. And I will be teaching an online class for 7 weeks from January - March so that will keep me occupied during what promises to be cold, wet, dark months... so I don't suspect I'll have a bad or depressing or homesick kind of winter. I'm happy, it's still as sweet as it was when I arrived just in different ways. A few additional updates... we're still looking actively for a new place to live (no leads), I'm still having fun times learning German (not in school yet though), and I'm still working on paperwork -- I have about ten more documents to have approved or appointments to make this month alone! ALSO Whoever romanticized moving to Europe is a heavy drinker on crack because let me tell ya, relocation over the pond is HARD WORK and takes A LOT of time and money. Rick Steves can harp on about romantic Vienna and charming Paris all he wants -- it's only charming and romantic while you're downing a bottle of fine wine while boating down some fancy river. When you move here, life is LIFE. It's all the same as it was before, just in a new environment with new people, challenges, good times and bad times. I was telling my husband just this morning that if he were not German and a lover of research, we'd be screwed here with all of this paperwork. It's not hard or anything it is just all in GERMAN. And if you don't speak it, you are screwed. There is SO MUCH to do when you leave your country for a new one. New laws, insurances, licenses, visas, language classes, medical & dental insurance, legal help (and insurance - yup, they offer that is Germany and it is divine), life insurance, business insurance, property insurance, retirement insurance, personal insurance (you break a vase in someone else's home), translation of documents, taxes (nightmare), I could go on and on and on... and all of this is in the language of your new country and if that is not English and you are not fluent in your new language (ME) then you better have a friend you can trust who is also very helpful, honest and intelligent or you will face a lot of frustration and even anger through the whole process of setting up your life in a new land. And to top it all off, even leases on apartments and bank accounts are completely different and laws on this are very different, and traffic laws are different so when you are driving you cannot think in terms of how you remember driving for 20 years, you have to take into account all of these new signs, some you cannot read, others that are super confusing... Every single day is a learning experience. And so if you do not like to learn then you will not like leaving behind your country for a new one. Fortunately I love to learn, I am married to a German, and I pretty much have it made because he loves to research things and has made this process very, very easy for us even with all of the appointments and paperwork. But if he were American like me, we'd both be standing now with our pants down because let me tell you, the joke would be on us. It's not easy. Once you move to Europe and aren't just vacationing (i.e. not thinking about your "real" life), you will realize the amount of work you will need to do to get set up so that you can start living a normal life. You better LOVE that new culture you have your eyes on! This is precisely why one must truly love research, learning and their new culture OR they need to be sponsored by a company who will do all of the hard stuff for them. :) Or marry someone from that country like I did. Then it's more or less business as usual. So! That's all the latest from me. I'm happy and busy and looking forward to the weekend! I have a lot of fun things planned... including time with our friends on Saturday evening in a nearby town, a visit to the opening of a design store opening party in my district, and on Saturday I need to have my husband shoot a vignette and a room in our apartment for Cosmopolitan magazine where I'll be featured in an article in their March issue. The press has been good to me lately... So how are you? :) Oh and before I go another funny story... I went to the photo studio yesterday to have my photo taken for my driver's license. It has to be a biometric photo and the place that issues your license does not take them like in the states. Anyway, this twentysomething guy comes out to the lobby and escorts me to room, closes the door, and it is very dim with only the makeup table and mirror illuminated. He looks at me, in a most serious voice speaking in English with a thick German accent... "Take off your clothes please." Huh? Take off your clothes please? Um you don't mean that, you mean my coat right? He smiled, then blushed, then said, um yes, your coats. It was totally cute. He kept blushing during the entire shoot. He then confessed to having an English speaking Canadian girlfriend. I asked him why then did he not know the difference between the word coat and clothes? He just smiled. Hmmm. Judging from all of the nude photographs all over the wall in his studio, I'm assuming this is just normal business speak to him. Hi, step into my room, take off your clothes. he he. This month I have so much on my plate, I doubt I'll be in the haus maus haus too often. Sorry. But I'm trying to stop by here once weekly to say hello and well, hopefully that's good for you my dear friends. How are you doing anyway? (image: holly becker for haus maus)

Comments

Laura said…
oh goodness, the paperwork, it does take quite awhile. It is very helpful that your native-german speaking husband can help. All I can say is that it slowly gets better! (we moved here 5 years also and most of the paperwork is done. :-) We've been well in southern germany, I love this time of year and can never get enough of the christmas markets!! Anyway, hang in there and keep us updated when you can!
Nina said…
Oh my, isn't it a circus when you move country? You're right, the best way to do it is to have your company or your husband help you with it. Always love reading your anecdotes from abroad. :)
Abbie said…
Oh my goodness. You had me laughing out loud at that last bit.

Time really is flying. I cannot imagine trying to figure out everything you need to do once you've moved!
oh you are totally right, moving to a new country is a total adventure! Researching beforehand and doing your homework is definitely the way to go! Best of luck! I'm sure you will have an amazing time! Can't wait to keep reading your updates!
Liisa said…
Hello Holly!

I am a silent reader of your blog and thought I would drop you a comment to encourage you in the process of adjusting to Germany. I am German myself but have lived in Africa so I know how difficult, tiring and sometimes even frustrating this process can be. But I also know how rewarding the process can be, because we learn so much about ourselves during such an experience and when we are finally through the whole process and adjusted well, what is left are the funny stories of which you already shared some with us here as well as the many new experiences we made and new things we learned. To me - from what I read here - it seems you are doing very well in this process so far!

Wishing you and your husband a wonderful remaining Advent season and of course a blessed, peaceful and happy Christmas!
Jules said…
I was chuckling all through this post, especially when I got to the line about you and your husband standing there with your pants around your ankles. :)

I love hearing your perspective as an American overseas.
Eleanor said…
Ah, this post reminds me of my first years in Germany. I moved here on a tourist visa, with no job and could barely speak German. It was so HARD! When I got a job with an American internet company, it was like overnight having a magic wand!

Ten years on, I can honestly say that it was all worth it. I love living here, I love my husband and once you learn the language and the system things to get easier. I have since bought an apartment got married here and the next big thing I will attempt is setting up a business structure...I figure if I can do the other two things I can master that...but taxes, yes eek, they still scare me (both in America and here!)
You are sop lucky to be married to a German when ever I get mail I quickly run to our neighbor for a translation.
Juliette said…
I couldn't agree more w/you regarding the work it is to set up life abroad! I'm so very thankful for my extraordinarily detail-oriented German husband who thrives on getting things done, and done properly! We've been here a few years, but just had to jump through more hoops when I set up my freelance business this fall - phew!

Insurance here is ludicrous - you're so right! We actually need to have a separate policy for the keys to where my husband works - isn't that nuts?!

All the same, it's always a trade-off, wherever you live! =)
bluire said…
Hi Holly,
I'm moving to Vienna after Christmas with my husband, I speak a little German having learned it in secondary school, but he speaks none.
But our company hired a relocation agent to help us with everything.
I realise your husband is German, but perhaps you would benefit from the help of an agent also?
Just as an aside, why the delay in going to language classes? I think there are Goethe institutes all over Germany, even if there aren't, you could start with Berlitz language courses sold on Amazon.
Good luck with learning the language, it is a difficult language grammmar wise. But, your husband should be able to help you to learn quickly, if he adopts harsh love and communicates with you only in German.
Btw, the forms that are only in German, isn't that the case in most countries? If you were a German speaker moving to the States, wouldn't all the forms be in English (or maybe some Spanish also). Not all companies employ fluent English speakers, hence using the native language on the forms. :-)
Allison said…
I'm in the midst of moving to Amsterdam (from Montreal) with my husband. I'm glad his company is doing a lot of the paperwork part, but all that other once-you're-there stuff sounds a bit scary. I'm trying not to think about it yet since I'm down to the last couple weeks of the while-I'm-still-here stuff. Living in absolute chaos for a month is driving me a bit nuts, and I know it will continue over there until we've found a place to live, and bought some furniture (wow, do I miss dresser drawers!). It seems like you've settled in nicely, so it's great to hear about the good bits too, like winter farmer's markets and tons of winter/xmas markets. I've got a visit to Germany before xmas on my list for next year already!
fresh365 said…
I am really enjoying hearing your updates! It all seems so exciting to me, but I like how you pointed out that when you move it’s still “life”. Sometimes I think we (or me!) get caught up in the dream of living somewhere new and exciting, and forget that business-as-usual part. Have a wonderful weekend!
Laura said…
It is so hard to relocate, but so worth it if you go to the right place... I moved years ago to Italy with no Italian and the help of my boyfriend (Italian native) was so important. Then the both of us moved to Ireland and our English had to improve very fast, just out of necessity, but fortunately Irish bureaucracy is heaven compared to the Italian or Spanish one. Now we are in Spain, for me it's easier since this is my own country but I need to do lots of paperwork, anyway, and help my Italian boyfriend with his. And learn a new language, yes!, because Catalan is everywhere. Now we are looking for an apartment to rent, this is driving us mad but we are so happy with the move that the extra energy needed for all this comes from I don't know where, but it is there.

Best of luck! I love to read your enthusiasm about your move.
Unknown said…
The special photo for the passport is a Europe thing (EC). In Holland we now also have a chip in our passport containing information on our fingerprints. It's 1984...
I have to get one in a few months. I am nog looking forward to it.
You did have a nice experience making the photo LOL
Have a nice weekend!
Ealenya said…
It's nice to hear from you Holly :)
Glad you still enjoy it here, I've never been to Bückeburg, how was it? I heard they have a nice show for Christmas.
And tonight was the first (melted) snow, it should snow until December 24th. Hopefully enough for a nice white Christmas.
Concerning the appartment hunting, no idea if you would consider building a house, but you can buy quite cheap plots in Hanover directly from the city. Only restriction is to build a "Passivhaus" (they sell the plots cheap to encourage Passivhäuser and ecology).
Enjoy Hanover and all your projects!
likeschocolate said…
I am not so sure I would find that cut about being asked to take off my clothes. Well, maybe by a 20 year old. I guess I am grateful my German loves living in the states. I can understand though, we tried to buy flowers over the phone for my mother-in-law who is in the hospital and the German florist treated us like we were asking him to do a drug deal. All three kept saying this is not the states we just don't do it this way you must have this and that and no credit cards-blah blah blah. We ended up after 2 hours using an international flower service. Froh Weinachten!
CK said…
Ya know it's not just hard as a non-native German speaker. I was born in Germany live here until I was 18, then I moved to the US and stayed there until two years ago (a total of 17 years). I even became a US citizen! I built a life there, opened my own company, had two houses, sold houses etc in NYC and it was all so easy, compared to over here in Germany.

Needless to say I speak German, but when I moved back in 2007 I had the hardest time with all the forms etc. I simply never grew up dealing with any insurances, forms, laws etc when I lived here, my dad did that of course. I did all of that in NYC, because nobody would do it for me. So I was/am as clueless as someone who has no German background whatsoever. Still to this day I have to get help when I deal with a lot of the more complex issues.

I moved three time since I have been back in Germany, and unfortunately this year I had to deal with the sudden passing of both of my parents here. The legal language on those forms was so hard for me to grasp, especially since I was so run-down emotionally. Without the help of my friends here and my FIL here, I would have not made it through those months. And that says a lot if you consider I actually do speak German... just not as well a English.

So hats off to any of you who don't speak this language at all, or just a bit of it. I have no idea how you guys do it.
Susan said…
Please keep posting about your transition to Germany. My husband and I are planning to move to Paris in 18 mos and are researching everything like mad, so I like to hear the good, the bad, and the ugly on living in Europe --like you said, vacation and real life are two separate things. My husband is English with some knowledge of French, but I only know some tourist French so it will be a big undertaking for me.

I'm just so happy that we can find out so much on the internet. The idea of moving to Paris would have been much scarier just 5 years ago and I don't know if I would have been brave enough!
You will have the makings of a book at the end of your German adventure. thanks for sharing!
Simone said…
Well, it sounds like you are settling in nicely. There will be an end to all of the paper work. (I still have to deal with my German Rente to be collected 20 years hence on the American end.) Speaking of research: You need to write about Rummelpottlaufen come December 31.
Happy Holidays.
maja said…
i loved reading this post. i am american, but my mother moved my sister and i to france when we were 9 and 11 and i remember so many challenges. we ended up coming back to the states when she couldn't find work. you are right, it's definitely much different than being on vacation. but i wouldn't trade that experience for anything, and would do it in a heartbeat.
Luna Levy said…
yes holly, you are completely right - about everything! but the bureaucracy does get easier at some point, I promise - as does the German language!

but you have an adventurous spirit, and that is the most important thing of all :)

happy holidays from Stephanie in Munich :)
Anonymous said…
yep, welcome back to the real world. and real life. you think 4 months is an achievement...I can assure you, it doesn't get easier. I just gets different. good luck!
The coats, clothes story! Absolutely hilarious!
This is good for me to read :)
My husband and I plan on moving to Spain for a year (in 3 years)...good to know that I really need to start my research early on!

Love your blog!
stepanini* said…
Dear Holly, not only do i love your blog, you also make me love the country, i haven been born in, more. Your enthusiasm is so great and always makes a smile on my face. Thank you for that.

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