Updates!
Yes I'll admit -- I've been a little neglectful lately, so sorry. Truth is, I've been so busy that I can barely keep up and I suspect that this will continue for at least the next year as the amount of projects that I have are... well... I don't even want to think about it. All I can say is thank goodness I love my line of work because if I hated it, I'd be having a nervous breakdown right about now. Fortunately, I love all of the projects that I'm involved in and feel very passionately about each one so it's the passion that is my fuel and motivates me to stay committed. I remember times in my life when I did not like what I was doing for work and how every moment felt like an hour. Ever have a job like that?
me in the mirror at bueckeburg castle.
How have you been? These days, I've been going to a lot of markets because they have so many winter markets outdoors and indoors that there is always something going on. They've set up a rather large market here on the main street where I do most of my errands so whenever I'm down there I'm caught up in a whirlwind of sights, sounds and smells... Roasted nuts, hot wine, gingerbread... and I love the puppet theater for the kids, the man who does them is so talented and to hear the laughter of the children as I approach is such medicine! In addition to these daily markets dotted around town, the twice weekly farmers' markets in my neighborhood are still hopping so I enjoy buying locally grown foods still -- even in the winter. Lately the Dutch have been bringing over lots of tulips -- I've been noticing them more and more in the flower shops and since they grow them in their massive greenhouses just over the border, you can enjoy what is the symbol of Springtime in the month of December. Amaryllis are all the rage, in addition to pine, neither of which you'll find in my home as I don't like red or pine green. I'm a rebel. So I opt for tulips and roses. :)
And so with the markets, and the trips outside of Hannover to see the family, or visit a random castle, and my visits with my friend (we do a ladies lunch once weekly), and my visits with family and other friends (tomorrow I'm going by train up north to do some shopping), and this, and that... there is never a dull moment. I cannot believe I've been living here for 18 weeks already - over 4 months! I'm not homesick at all, I'm too busy to really think about missing anything yet. And I will be teaching an online class for 7 weeks from January - March so that will keep me occupied during what promises to be cold, wet, dark months... so I don't suspect I'll have a bad or depressing or homesick kind of winter. I'm happy, it's still as sweet as it was when I arrived just in different ways.
A few additional updates... we're still looking actively for a new place to live (no leads), I'm still having fun times learning German (not in school yet though), and I'm still working on paperwork -- I have about ten more documents to have approved or appointments to make this month alone!
ALSO
Whoever romanticized moving to Europe is a heavy drinker on crack because let me tell ya, relocation over the pond is HARD WORK and takes A LOT of time and money. Rick Steves can harp on about romantic Vienna and charming Paris all he wants -- it's only charming and romantic while you're downing a bottle of fine wine while boating down some fancy river. When you move here, life is LIFE. It's all the same as it was before, just in a new environment with new people, challenges, good times and bad times. I was telling my husband just this morning that if he were not German and a lover of research, we'd be screwed here with all of this paperwork. It's not hard or anything it is just all in GERMAN. And if you don't speak it, you are screwed. There is SO MUCH to do when you leave your country for a new one. New laws, insurances, licenses, visas, language classes, medical & dental insurance, legal help (and insurance - yup, they offer that is Germany and it is divine), life insurance, business insurance, property insurance, retirement insurance, personal insurance (you break a vase in someone else's home), translation of documents, taxes (nightmare), I could go on and on and on... and all of this is in the language of your new country and if that is not English and you are not fluent in your new language (ME) then you better have a friend you can trust who is also very helpful, honest and intelligent or you will face a lot of frustration and even anger through the whole process of setting up your life in a new land. And to top it all off, even leases on apartments and bank accounts are completely different and laws on this are very different, and traffic laws are different so when you are driving you cannot think in terms of how you remember driving for 20 years, you have to take into account all of these new signs, some you cannot read, others that are super confusing...
Every single day is a learning experience.
And so if you do not like to learn then you will not like leaving behind your country for a new one.
Fortunately I love to learn, I am married to a German, and I pretty much have it made because he loves to research things and has made this process very, very easy for us even with all of the appointments and paperwork. But if he were American like me, we'd both be standing now with our pants down because let me tell you, the joke would be on us. It's not easy. Once you move to Europe and aren't just vacationing (i.e. not thinking about your "real" life), you will realize the amount of work you will need to do to get set up so that you can start living a normal life. You better LOVE that new culture you have your eyes on!
This is precisely why one must truly love research, learning and their new culture OR they need to be sponsored by a company who will do all of the hard stuff for them. :) Or marry someone from that country like I did. Then it's more or less business as usual.
So! That's all the latest from me. I'm happy and busy and looking forward to the weekend! I have a lot of fun things planned... including time with our friends on Saturday evening in a nearby town, a visit to the opening of a design store opening party in my district, and on Saturday I need to have my husband shoot a vignette and a room in our apartment for Cosmopolitan magazine where I'll be featured in an article in their March issue. The press has been good to me lately...
So how are you? :)
Oh and before I go another funny story... I went to the photo studio yesterday to have my photo taken for my driver's license. It has to be a biometric photo and the place that issues your license does not take them like in the states. Anyway, this twentysomething guy comes out to the lobby and escorts me to room, closes the door, and it is very dim with only the makeup table and mirror illuminated. He looks at me, in a most serious voice speaking in English with a thick German accent... "Take off your clothes please."
Huh?
Take off your clothes please?
Um you don't mean that, you mean my coat right?
He smiled, then blushed, then said, um yes, your coats.
It was totally cute. He kept blushing during the entire shoot. He then confessed to having an English speaking Canadian girlfriend. I asked him why then did he not know the difference between the word coat and clothes?
He just smiled. Hmmm.
Judging from all of the nude photographs all over the wall in his studio, I'm assuming this is just normal business speak to him. Hi, step into my room, take off your clothes. he he.
This month I have so much on my plate, I doubt I'll be in the haus maus haus too often. Sorry. But I'm trying to stop by here once weekly to say hello and well, hopefully that's good for you my dear friends. How are you doing anyway?
(image: holly becker for haus maus)
Comments
Time really is flying. I cannot imagine trying to figure out everything you need to do once you've moved!
I am a silent reader of your blog and thought I would drop you a comment to encourage you in the process of adjusting to Germany. I am German myself but have lived in Africa so I know how difficult, tiring and sometimes even frustrating this process can be. But I also know how rewarding the process can be, because we learn so much about ourselves during such an experience and when we are finally through the whole process and adjusted well, what is left are the funny stories of which you already shared some with us here as well as the many new experiences we made and new things we learned. To me - from what I read here - it seems you are doing very well in this process so far!
Wishing you and your husband a wonderful remaining Advent season and of course a blessed, peaceful and happy Christmas!
I love hearing your perspective as an American overseas.
Ten years on, I can honestly say that it was all worth it. I love living here, I love my husband and once you learn the language and the system things to get easier. I have since bought an apartment got married here and the next big thing I will attempt is setting up a business structure...I figure if I can do the other two things I can master that...but taxes, yes eek, they still scare me (both in America and here!)
Insurance here is ludicrous - you're so right! We actually need to have a separate policy for the keys to where my husband works - isn't that nuts?!
All the same, it's always a trade-off, wherever you live! =)
I'm moving to Vienna after Christmas with my husband, I speak a little German having learned it in secondary school, but he speaks none.
But our company hired a relocation agent to help us with everything.
I realise your husband is German, but perhaps you would benefit from the help of an agent also?
Just as an aside, why the delay in going to language classes? I think there are Goethe institutes all over Germany, even if there aren't, you could start with Berlitz language courses sold on Amazon.
Good luck with learning the language, it is a difficult language grammmar wise. But, your husband should be able to help you to learn quickly, if he adopts harsh love and communicates with you only in German.
Btw, the forms that are only in German, isn't that the case in most countries? If you were a German speaker moving to the States, wouldn't all the forms be in English (or maybe some Spanish also). Not all companies employ fluent English speakers, hence using the native language on the forms. :-)
Best of luck! I love to read your enthusiasm about your move.
I have to get one in a few months. I am nog looking forward to it.
You did have a nice experience making the photo LOL
Have a nice weekend!
Glad you still enjoy it here, I've never been to Bückeburg, how was it? I heard they have a nice show for Christmas.
And tonight was the first (melted) snow, it should snow until December 24th. Hopefully enough for a nice white Christmas.
Concerning the appartment hunting, no idea if you would consider building a house, but you can buy quite cheap plots in Hanover directly from the city. Only restriction is to build a "Passivhaus" (they sell the plots cheap to encourage Passivhäuser and ecology).
Enjoy Hanover and all your projects!
Needless to say I speak German, but when I moved back in 2007 I had the hardest time with all the forms etc. I simply never grew up dealing with any insurances, forms, laws etc when I lived here, my dad did that of course. I did all of that in NYC, because nobody would do it for me. So I was/am as clueless as someone who has no German background whatsoever. Still to this day I have to get help when I deal with a lot of the more complex issues.
I moved three time since I have been back in Germany, and unfortunately this year I had to deal with the sudden passing of both of my parents here. The legal language on those forms was so hard for me to grasp, especially since I was so run-down emotionally. Without the help of my friends here and my FIL here, I would have not made it through those months. And that says a lot if you consider I actually do speak German... just not as well a English.
So hats off to any of you who don't speak this language at all, or just a bit of it. I have no idea how you guys do it.
I'm just so happy that we can find out so much on the internet. The idea of moving to Paris would have been much scarier just 5 years ago and I don't know if I would have been brave enough!
Happy Holidays.
but you have an adventurous spirit, and that is the most important thing of all :)
happy holidays from Stephanie in Munich :)
My husband and I plan on moving to Spain for a year (in 3 years)...good to know that I really need to start my research early on!
Love your blog!