Quality Time

It was cute, what happened this morning. My husband came to me and said we should have a nice little morning conversation. And he sat down on the sofa with me, smiled, and held my hand. He told me so many wonderful things about decor8 and my teaching and how proud he is of me, which made me enormously happy. And he told so many other positive things, it felt so nice to hear them because even though we love one another you know how time gets muddy and you don't always tell the other person just how great they are and what they mean to you.

As we talked, we discussed dreams and plans. We talked about having a child. A real discussion this time, not some casual mention. And we talked about my goal's for this year and his. I made a list, a top five list, of five goals that I have for myself this year. Although they are too personal to really share here, I felt better putting them in writing and speaking them out loudly to my husband. And we both decided to do things to support one another in these goals and if we see the other one steering off to the left or right, to help steer back to the original list. I am very grateful to have a husband like Thorsten, he is not only super sweet (everyone says this about him and it is true, even at home behind closed doors) but he genuinely cares about my business and goals and what I want out of my life. And I care for his as well but I guess lately all of this has slipped off of the radar for me as I work so much and he was simply offering me time to slow down for a moment and think, out loud, to him. So I have my trusty list. And I know exactly what I want to do this year now and I'm absolutely ready. It does not involve having a baby, but it may involve getting started next Winter. One of the things that I can share from my list is that I want to find a place to live, which is critical to the other four. And so goals are set in stone, so to speak, and I feel like I just lost a lot of stress and chaos that has been spiraling around inside of my head. And you know what... it feels damn good. I highly recommend a list making session with someone that you love and trust, and share it with them out loud talking each action item through. Try to list five, as I'm currently teaching in my students in class. Five is attainable and we all know that if your list is a mile long you end up doing nothing so go with a short list and you should see results. Any plans for the weekend? We will see a property on Sunday and tonight I have a small meeting with some designers in Hannover and tomorrow a whole lot of writing to do for my class next week, along with those mundane errands like shopping and banking, and then I am going to look into a local class to see what that's all about. And you? (image: holly becker for haus maus)